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For the Ilui
Neshama of Avraham ben Ester.
Friendship
is a key building block in one’s personality, behavior and in life in general.
A friend is someone who is there when no one else is present. A friend is
someone that helps us when we think there is no alternative, no solution, no
sight of optimism at all. This is all cute and peaceful for our ears, but who
cares honestly if thi is not taken into our day to day life?
And what is
the Torah HaKdosha’s take on friendship?
Orchot
Tzadikkim says in his book a short description of what a true friend throughout
all the chapters (called gates) in his book.
He explains
briefly that a friend is one who brings another person closer to Hashem. It’s a
person who is not afraid of all the pressure from the group and tells the guy
to put on a kippa and say a Beracha on the shot or to say Asher Yatzar after
the bathroom. It’s the friend who gets up 5 minutes earlier to make sure those
extra 5 minutes will be used to do ANYTHING that is needed to wake his roommate
up for Shacharit. A friend is one who always has his apartment open so you can
step in to put on Tefillin in a quiet and private environment to speak to
Hashem and tell Him Thanks for everything He does for us.
A friend is
there when you are looking for a wedding outfit and can’t find anything Tzanua
enough, so she gives you her longer dress because she knows you need it
(emotionally and halachically). A friend is one who smiles all the time, because
than he/she can just make you feel better without doing anything!
However,
because today friendship is such a casual and unimportant matter unfortunately,
due to the Facebook phenomenon of having over 1,000 ‘friends’ we have become
very difficult to let others enter our hearts. We put up a big cement wall in
front of our emotions and feelings. We tell others DO NOT ENTER. We don’t want
rebuke and we don’t want help. We want to continue living our lives because we
are in our comfort zone.
We all have
this problem. Therefore, a good friend, a real friend, a chaver (even
saying it in Hebrew is different) is hard to find. This is why Pirkei Avot
teaches us to literally buy a friend (Perek Aleph Mishnah Vav 1:6)! B’H
if we know of any real friends, we need to step out of our comfort zone to run
after them and make sure they are there for us. Move forward and B’H we will
have the strength to break out of ourselves to reach spiritual success (and
then all other success falls into place).
Judaism=Think.
SHAVUA TOV!
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